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Daddy Diaries // Going Solo

Recently one of the twins was invited to a birthday party. Just one of them. This was a big moment. Normally both get invited and, up until recently, they love being together. And while we recognise they’re individuals and need their own friends and time, as a parent it’s hard not to worry about how the non-invited twin reacts to not being invited. To soften the blow grandma organised a day at her place and ...

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Daddy Diaries // Holidays Bliss & Blues

Ahh, holidays. A break from routine to recharge the batteries. A few moments where you try and relax and celebrate life once more. A period of quality time, new experiences and of course endless arguments. In other words, a designated collection of days where you get to remember why you celebrated the kids finally going to school. For a lot of us parents, it can be more stressful than the humdrum routine. H ...

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Daddy Diaries // Letters to my Girls

Two weeks before the twins were born I started writing my girls letters. I’ve never stopped. This month I thought I’d share one with you. Dear baby girls, I simply love being your daddy but sometimes it’s difficult being a parent. I love you girls so very much I automatically want to protect you from anything that can hurt you physically or emotionally. But the truth is that even though you may see me a sup ...

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Daddy Diaries // Autopilot Parenting

Parenting is difficult. It's unrelenting and it takes its toll physically and mentally and sometimes you find yourself just doing things on autopilot. While this routine is often a good thing, there are times when you wonder about your state of mind. For example, the other day I was hurriedly making dinner on a stressful day while mentally reviewing the to-do list when I look up at my girls. Eating the dinn ...

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Daddy Diaries // Staycation, for Sanity’s Sake

Wise people often try to provide focus and context with the quote “it’s about the journey not the destination”. Nowhere is that quote more relevant than when travelling with kids. Granted some of you may be looking forward to drinks at the destination but the most stressful part of holidays as a parent is inevitably the getting-there part of the equation. Like the fact you can fight all day to get a child t ...

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Daddy Diaries // What’s in a Name?

Picking a name is a delicate negotiation full of conflicting emotions and motivations. Traditional family names, personal preferences and current trends all factor into what can easily turn into a very passionate conversation. And don’t even start me on “Oh no, we can’t name them Kerry. I once knew a Kerry who was a horrible person”. So who actually gets to name them? Most women will insist they have the fi ...

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Daddy Diaries // Me & Them

When my girls were born, amidst the emotion and tears and wonder, I set myself some lofty goals. First and foremost I wanted to not just be a good parent, but the best i could be. To do this, I set myself noble goals: to protect them, nurture them, and teach them... all to perfectly prepare them for the world. It seemed pretty simple: teach them the basics of being a good human being through simple lessons ...

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Daddy Diaries // Books Rule!

Reading is the gift that gives and if you’re a parent, what it gives is a blessed silence. I was interested to read a recent study that said despite a general decline in reading, girls today aged 6-13 years were actually more interested in picking up a book. As a bibliophile, I think this is great. As a dad of twin girls aged six, I think this is awesome. You see I love books. A lot. And I’ve always worried ...

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Daddy Diaries

Mothers come in all shapes and sizes and that’s never been truer in an age where women can do it all. Or at least as much as they want. The balance that most women face is somehow fitting it all in. Especially when work and career come into the equation. Take my wife (but don’t take her far because I need her to pay the bills).   But seriously, my wife is an intense workaholic with the maternal instinc ...

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Think of the Children

Not long before last Christmas I was driving home from a visit to Grandma’s when the twins started reciting a long list of things they wanted from Santa.   A bit disturbed at the length of the letters, I politely pointed out to them that they couldn’t have everything on their lists. Predictably, they asked why and I explained to them that there are poor kids in the world who only get one or even someti ...

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