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If We Don’t Fix Us, We Will Break

If We Don’t Fix Us, We Will Break

Are you feeling tired, drained, lethargic, almost at the end of your nerves? Are little things getting the better of you and you don’t know exactly what to do? Would you love to disappear for just a couple of days to catch your breath and be with yourself? How would it be to revive yourself and then jump back into life, all topped up again? Oh, yes, yes, yes, you hear yourself say it, however, the reality is holding you stuck. Yes, the responsibility will keep you stuck if you let it do so. Yes, you have children to collect from school and daycare. Work won’t wait nor will the shopping to feed everyone, plus the transporting of everyone from sports practises amongst other things. The list goes on and on, keeping you stuck and depleted. The emotions bounce around as well: happy, sad, happy, sad. It’s like being on a seesaw.

“If you want to soar in life, you must first learn to F.L.Y (first love yourself).”
~ Mark Sterling

If you were given the opportunity to take a break by yourself, what would you do, where would you go? What does a small break actually mean? Does it mean taking long walks alone? Putting our feet up with a great novel and loosing yourself in the fantasy of the narrative, or even the romance or thrill of a movie? Could it mean totally disconnecting from the outside world for a short amount of time and shutting all devices off? Gosh, no technology, is this possible? Does a short break away mean having the space to plan and project for the remainder of the year, or even the next 12 months ahead? Does a short time outbreak for yourself mean having the children babysat by grandparents or your partner?  With so many options, which would you choose? How much value do you put in your ‘me time’, rest time, recuperation time, being supportive and nurturing-to-self time? What if nothing changed? What would happen? To you, your family, your relationship and your health?

“Burnout is a psychological term, it refers to long-term exhaustion and diminished interest in work. There are negative outcomes relating to burnout, including job function (relating to performance, output, etc), health-related outcomes (increase in stress hormones, coronary heart disease, circulatory issues), and mental health problems such as depression” (Wikipedia). Do you feel pressure often? Do you take on too much work and not ask for help, or even just do lots of overtime? If you have your own business, are you working all hours the universe gave us to make things happen? The busyness unconsciously impacts on communication, therefore directly on our relationships. You might even feel sad, angry and/or disappointed about the lack of quality time for the important things in your life. Maybe you even think it unfair for you to have time out for yourself. Maybe you even thought things would have been different! As the burnout term states, there is a high probability it can impact directly on your health you can end up unhappy deep within yourself, and this can lead to your body being at ‘Dis-ease’. It’s a great play on the word, when our balance, our body, our life isn’t at ease, it creates ‘dis-ease’. On the serious side, there is no play about it. It’s the truth and at some time or another, we have either been affected personally by it or have known someone in our close circle who is or has been impacted by ‘Burnout’ or not taking time for self.

There are always choices in life and you can make different choices right now about how you handle, run and deal with the next 3,6 and 12 months. It can be exactly the same with nothing changing, therefore having more of the same (if all is working well and balanced nothing needs to change!). If you think some changes could be made, make the choice now to put it in place. Recharge, re-energise and refocus your batteries anytime. In making different choices, you will create efficient and effective changes and action steps. You are in control and you do have the ability to make things different. Do you want to?

Tips for taking a ‘Self Nurturing Break’

  • Take a weekend or a couple of days away to be alone.
  • Get support from grandparents/husband/partner/friends.
  • Talk to the children and explain how it’s important to take some time to recharge.
  • If going away isn’t possible, take time during the day to meditate, sleep/rest, read or generally go slow.
  • Meet up with a friend who can support you.
  • Cut back on one day of work.
  • Hire a housekeeper to lighten the load.
  • Eat well and choose healthy Australian options wherever possible.
  • Get groceries delivered to the house (saves time) and money.
  • Work with a coach to support your new choices and receive accountability.
  • Seek out professional help, there are lots to choose from.
  • Journal what you are feeling.
  • List what you are grateful for – gratitude is hugely powerful and healing.
  • Drink plenty of water.
  • Start taking care of yourself any way you can and watch the little things start to change.

“Sometimes you need to be alone in order to reflect on life. Take time out to take care of yourself. You deserve it”.
~ Robert New

About The Author

Debbie Hogg

Debbie Hogg is one of Australia’s leading coaches PCC/APC, is an award winning Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, Speaker, Women’s Retreat Master, Writer, Podcaster, Adventurous Hiker and is The Self-Worth Coach. Debbie is passionate in helping women manage their ‘Inner & Outer’ balance. She is co-creator of Life Skills Programs, assisting parents teach children confidence and resilience. Debbie knows that when we give ourselves permission to fully show up in our life amazing serendipities occur! She is mum to two amazing teenager daughters // www.debbiehogg.com

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