It’s around this time we take stock, reflect on what’s happened and contemplate the coming year. Will it have similarities to last year, or will we make it more exciting and adventurous?
What’s your 2018 going to look like? If it’s going to be different, only we can make this happen. Do we want it to be different? More productive, accepting, fun or educational? Now’s the time of year when people set their intentions and goals. Some plan to get fitter, lose weight, drink less, walk more, find another job, get pregnant, take on their own business, leave a relationship, find a relationship, re-educate or start a sport. There are huge variations with what we choose to do. Whatever the goal, idea or dream, it’s imperative to make a plan. Some even say we can’t go anywhere without a plan and others also say, “If we fail to plan, we plan to fail”.
There are many blogs and articles about setting goals, making plans and creating strategies to get there which are great. Often two key points are missed. The first is looking at what the bigger picture is and how these smaller goals support our big picture and purpose? The big picture is ‘Our Life’. What is it we want to have at the end of it, what do we want to have achieved, left behind, be known for? The second is, what thinking do we need to do (or what thinking do we need to change) to fully support our goals and dreams to create ‘Our (Best) Life’?
Let’s look at the thinking part first. Our focus flows where our attention goes. If we are choosing to look at the negative side of things, think it’s too difficult, unfair or out of balance and use negative words, this is exactly what we will get. How can we expect anything else when our focus is on the glass half empty. A small step is to start looking at it as half full – this is a positive turnaround. We might think, it’s too difficult to change, because unfortunately there is so much negativity and doom and gloom around us. How could we possibly change? It’s set in, it’s what we do and it’s a habit. We can choose to continue thinking this and ‘be’ in it, or we can choose to make a change. Whilst changing can be considered difficult by some, if we truly want something enough, anything is possible. Firstly understand what some of the small steps would be to make the change, then action daily. Once we feel a small change, bigger changes occur and momentum starts. Remember the words of the little red engine, ‘I think I can, I think I can: I know I can, I know I can: I CAN DO IT, I CAN DO IT!’. Then finally, wham, we have something different.
Next, let’s look at ‘Our Life’. Whatever we choose to do must have a conscious connection to our life and what we want to achieve. It is a relatively short time we are spending on this planet. Making every moment count is important. Is what we are choosing to do meaningful? Meaningful to us may be leaving our legacy – what do we want this to be? What is it we truly want to achieve? Do we want to be remembered for anything and, if so, what? To achieve what we want we will need to become a master at the required skill. When we have this, how will it support our bigger picture. Another question to ask ourselves is, will what I’m choosing to do give me the freedom to have the balanced lifestyle I want to support myself and my family? Lastly, is it aligned with my values? When it’s fully aligned with our values, it will be smooth and easy. If not, it will be challenging and incongruent. When these key thoughts are acknowledged and ticked off, we are good to look at the smaller goals and make a start. Starting small will support our momentum and consistency, we are empowered to achieve our goals and create our desired life.
Magic to successful goals
- Specific The more specific, the easier it is to achieve.
- Measurable Be able to measure progress and the destination.
- Achievable We must believe this in our heart or there is no point in starting.
- Realistic Is it within the possibilities for our life. Up-skill if required.
- Timeframe Setting timelines supports our process and progress.
- Attractive Be excited by the goal! Have fun and know it will give you goodness.
“Review your goals twice every day in order to be focused on achieving them.”
– Les Brown