People come into our life for different reasons some are forever and they are rare, most people are seasonal they’re with us for a reason. Have you ever had a friendship simply dissipate? Have you ever sat back and wondered what happened? One day it’s there and the next it’s gone. It might even be a little disappointing, we might wonder what we did or indeed what exactly happened to make this happen. Sometimes, something lasting years seems to vanish in a puff of smoke.


“We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason.” – anon


If we allow the negative thoughts to creep in we might find ourself getting caught in stories we make up about what happened. We can take on blame and even self doubt. What did I do, what did I say? All these questions, thoughts and feelings can come up.


The self doubt can be detrimental to our health and wellbeing, life and happiness. So what can we do when all of a sudden things just fizzle out or over time the friendship fades away and we don’t see or hear from someone we considered a friend. By understanding people come into our life for a reason, season or forever is key in this moment, it can help bring perspective on the situation. It can lighten the load and create a sense of peace. Love and let go.


A friend for a reason – we were meant to learn something, experience whatever it was we experienced with this person/friend. The journey we were meant to be on with this individual was for a good reason. When we understand the reason we learn from it, we will be able to spiritually and physically move on. If we don’t understand the reason – we will surely get another person/friend who will continue with the ‘learning’. They will then move on leaving us continuing to grow.


A friend for a season – the person/friend/acquaintance is with us for a short time to support us in our growth and learning. It might be something like a summertime fling. Someone we have worked with for a short period of time or meet on holiday and hung out with. Whatever the reason, where-ever the location, what-ever the timeframe, there is something we are meant to take from the ‘encounter’.


“Friends are the most important ingredient in the recipe of life.” – unknown


A friend forever – there will be people/friends who stay in our life forever. They may be someone we are married to or live with. It might be a friend we see regularly. It might even be a friend who we don’t see often, you know one of those relationships when you can call someone you haven’t seen or even heard from for months or years. As soon as the connection is made it’s like it was only yesterday we talked.


Reflecting on our growth and what we have learnt from different situations and encounters is important. Our relationships and the experiences it creates is important because of the ‘learning’. Spending time reflecting is helpful to our growth. Consider the strength of them, the shift being made and maybe it’s time to take the learning and say so long. Be grateful for the relationships we have and grateful to the ones now dissolving. Thank them for being around, for coming into our life and for teaching or sharing what we needed to learn.


“Love, Learn and Let Go!” – Debbie Hogg


Debbie Hogg

Debbie Hogg  

Debbie Hogg is one of Australia’s leading coaches PCC/APC, is an award winning Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, Speaker, Women’s Retreat Master, Writer, Podcaster, Adventurous Hiker and is The Self-Worth Coach. Debbie is passionate in helping women manage their ‘Inner & Outer’ balance. She is co-creator of Life Skills Programs, assisting parents teach children confidence and resilience. Debbie knows that when we give ourselves permission to fully show up in our life amazing serendipities occur! She is mum to two amazing teenager daughters // www.debbiehogg.com