Can we learn from animals and the way they communicate? Do animals really communicate with us? Is this true and if so, is this what creates better relationships between some animals and people? If there is great power in the communication between animals and humans, what is it we can learn from them in our relationships between and with each other?
“Look at animals kindly, and they will see. Talk to animals gently, and they will listen.”
– A.D. Williamson
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion it has taken place, yes we think the message has been delivered and the person we are communicating with has totally got it. Has a communication happened with our partner, children, boss, work colleagues or even shop assistant only for us to get a very different response to what we expected? We wonder how it all went so wrong, when all we asked was a simple question, or had a simple request. Was it the words we used, the timing of our conversation, our intention, our body language, tone of voice with the statement or request? We become confused, the person we are communicating with is confused, possibly irritated, unhappy or doesn’t want to talk anymore. The power of communication is something we tend not to consider much, we just do it. The words, the tone of voice and attitude simply pour out. Then wham, we can end up in a tricky situation.
The most basic and powerful way to connect with another person is to listen. Listening intently creates amazing magic within the structure of all communication. Remen, Rachel Naomi, quoted, “Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.” Did you know the word LISTEN contains the same letters as the word SILENT! Also, god gave us two ears and one mouth, to do double the amount of listening than talking. These little observations fully support the power of listening within our discussions.
We will probably have seen something similar to this picture of the cat and dog. Approaching each other they are cautious, moving closer and closer. In this moment, they are telepathically communicating. Animal #1 the cat stares at the other animal #2 the dog (in this example) also staring. They connect, they stare. No vocalisation happens, they continue staring at one another and in this telepathic communication expressions of thought are shared. This style of communication happens with any species and will also occur from a distance, meaning they don’t have to be directly in front of each other to communicate. There is a deep sense of connection without any words exchanged and this is also how animal communicators channel to communicate with animals. Behaviours of our pets will change through this style of communication. The more loving we are in our communication the more respect we will receive from our pets. We humans we are exactly the same. Aggressive communication doesn’t give us anything whereas communicating respectfully will give us so much more. “Animals share with us the privilege of having a soul.” Pythagoras.
What is it we could learn from this style of communication? By giving each other the power of space, the respect of silence and within it we fully show up and listen, the communication is guaranteed to shift. When our souls talk, no words are needed. This is the power of the lesson we can learn from animals.
An animal communicator will of course go beyond this and is able to deliver a message from an animal to someone. Anna Breytenbah, a master animal communicator who has been communicating with animals for years and has many transformational stories and successes. Her calmness and connection is a simple lesson in ‘awesome communication skills’. She receives direct messages and also sees images from animals. See this story about, ‘A leopard named Diabolo‘, who after a conversation with Anna was renamed Spirit.
“If you talk to the animals, they will talk with you and you will know each other. If you do not talk to them you will not know them. And what you do not know you will fear. What one fears, one destroys.” Chief Dan George. Consider this quote when we are having difficulties or issues with relationships around us. This might just be the key to shifting the issue.
10 Tips to better communicate through active listening:
- Stay focused on being interested, not interesting,
- Ask questions, questions give us information,
- Look for commonalities,
- Fully tune in all of our attention,
- Communicate we are listening, with a little nod or sound,
- Paraphrase what we are hearing from the person we are talking with,
- Validate the other persons emotions,
- Always maintain eye contact,
- Let go of any agenda we may have,
- Turn off all distractions, TV, radio, etc.
Before we speak THINK!
T – is it True?
H – is it Helpful?
I – is it Inspiring?
N – is it Necessary?
K – is it Kind?
“Be inspired by your journeys traveled, and the ones yet to come.”
– Sam Clark