How’s your list going? You know, the list – the end of year list. That behemoth of a ‘To Do’ list that starts out all nice and festive (order the Christmas ham, make a wishlist of Santa gifts) and ends up a nightmarish Encyclopaedia Britannica of odd jobs, errands, school concerts, break-ups and gift-sourcing that never seems to end. Santa’s Naughty & Nice List has got nothing on the end of year inventory any parent must endure before being rewarded with a slice of Christmas pud. How to handle the havoc? Carve some ‘Me Time’ out of your diary, before you carve the Christmas turkey. Here’s how . . .
Write. It. Down.
Dr Libby Weaver has some great advice in her book, Exhausted to Energized: If you want something to happen, schedule it. In her words, “Highly productive people do not work from a to-do list – they live and work from their calendar.” If your weekly yoga class gets thrown out the window in favour of yet another Christmas break-up, or your morning meditation is broken by exhausted kids pining for the end of school year, schedule yourself some time and do not compromise. You might have to be flexible about when you can carve out some Me Time – moving your morning run to a lunch-break walk, perhaps – but schedule it in, turn your phone off and let the world go to hell for just half an hour. You’ll feel better for it, and you’ll end up accomplishing more with renewed energy.
The Power of Silence
With the end of year comes a million messages – emails promoting flash sales, advertising spewing from your letterbox, newsletters from school, pleas for one more playdate before school finishes, plans to catch up over the holidays. The ‘noise’ is relentless. So organise silent time – if that’s a day spa appointment, go for it. If it’s sitting in the garden with a cup of tea and a firm instruction to not be bothered for five minutes, good for you. If it’s tech-free Tuesday, the whole family will benefit. Take a breather from the noise and you’ll be better prepared to come back to warp-speed life.
Organise time with your girlfriends. Yes, it’s yet another social occasion and we just suggested cutting right back. But this is therapy, a comedy show, fine food and wine and girl bonding all in one hit – and that’s got to be good for you, right? Venting to girlfriends who get it, won’t judge, won’t hold it against you that you haven’t bought a single Christmas gift and will sympathetically laugh at your Pinterest-inspired Christmas gingerbread house fails is food for the soul. Eat richly and plentifully.
When All Else Fails. . .
So the list is not diminishing, work deadlines are pressing, you’re bleeding money on Christmas gifts and the days are flying past. There’s no time for spa dates or girlfriend lunches. Here’s how you make do. Grab the latest copy of haven (free). Buy some Epsom salts (less than $5). Choose your poison – wine, tea, kombucha, green juice – whatever floats your boat. Run that bath as deep as you can get it, scooping out the plastic toys first. While it’s running, whack on a face mask and a hair pack. Then lock the door, sink in, ignore the whingeing on the other side and soak. You’ll emerge with silky skin, a flushed face, shiny hair and a calmer heartbeat. Ready to rock Christmas like a ladyboss. We salute you.
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