Like a home, our foundations are vital to our success. While we may experience hardships in life we must persevere to overcome them and repair the cracks they may cause in the foundations of our lives.
As we watch a house being built, the initial work seems to take a long time. The holes are dug to pour the concrete, creating stability. Drains are laid for pipes and all with extreme precision, creating the workings of the house. Flowing water and electricity are essential to the overall operations. Concrete is poured over all the preparations to create the floor. Now, and only now can the house be built. Walls are put up, the roof goes on, windows, fixtures and fittings are added before the house is decorated.
We are our house. Without solid foundations we are weakened and can start to crack. Cracks come with experiences and some are definitely tougher than others. The tougher our experiences are, the more difficult it is to deal with and the cracks start to develop. Our experiences cause wear and tear on us physically, emotionally and spiritually. They can beat us up, hold us back and bring us down if we let them. Our foundation is our confidence, self-esteem, belief in yourself and a strong inner core. It’s created from our childhood and is strengthened or weakened as we grow. Events, challenges and situations happen all the time and depending on the strength of our structure it will depend on how we cope. A loss of a job, moving states/countries, children leaving home, relationships separating, a death, an illness, a speeding ticket or a large bill at a inconvenient time, can all lead to cracks. Life carves away at our foundations, structure and walls. The more affected we are by the situation the more the cracks appear. Do we have to live with our cracks or can we fix them up?
At this time of the year we tend to make resolutions, goals, plans and decisions about ‘making this new year our best’. As part of our ‘best year’ what would it be like to do some renovations on our ‘foundation’ on ‘our life’? Like fixing up a house, the cracks can be dealt with in many ways. We can stick wallpaper over them and pretend they aren’t there. We can look at what caused the crack – was it a leak and if it was, where did it come from? Do we need to use a gauge to check if the crack is dried out before patching it? Drying out the crack simply takes time, and time is a great healer. Now the cracks can be filled in with strong poly-filler, we can sand it back and paint it to look as good as new. With making it as good as new, we have also made it strong again. This process is for small, medium, large, shallow and deep cracks; know they can be fixed. Focusing and working on what made the crack in the beginning is a fast track to fixing it.
A plan to make our foundation its best is to measure exactly where we are right now. This can be easily assessed with a Life Wheel (see my website for more information about the Life Wheel). Next, decide where we want to be by the end of the year, what would we want to have achieved, seen, experienced, completed? Working on yourself is the key to taking control of our life and supporting our foundation.
Tips to improving our foundation
- Rate yourself using the Life Wheel. This will give us a ‘reality check’ on exactly where we are.
- Write up everything we want to achieve, have, complete, do for this year. Turn these into clear goals.
- Decide on a gauge to monitor where we are in life. Will it be a coach, friend, partner or psychologist?
- When discussing a problem have a solution we want to have fix it. Be the driver of our own bus of life.
- Ask yourself great questions: What is happening now? What is working and not working? What is missing? What can get us started? What keeps us awake at night? What else could we do? What are our options?
“A house must be built on solid foundations if it is to last. The same principle applies to man, otherwise he too will sink back into the soft ground and becomes swallowed up by the world of illusion.”
– Sai Baba