I’ll tell you what I want, what I really, really want. But do I really know, what I really want?

Arguably, the most difficult question for us to answer is, ‘What do we want?’. It is the hardest because desires are one of the most important things in life and we are blessed to have been gifted the will to choose how we want to live our lives.

Often we might find ourselves feeling tired, which is natural. We get tired especially when not getting all we want from our work, our relationships, our bodies or day-to-day life. When we are not satisfied, our energy is drained leaving us despondent and often empty. It’s worthwhile considering firstly, what is top of our ‘wants’ list. Is it love, children, health and fitness, fun, improved finances, travel or focus on SELF first? Prioritising is important.

Many people will shrug if asked what they want. The truth is, deep inside, we already know what we REALLY want. The answers are in our hearts. Our conscious mind is waiting for our will to accept it and take action. These deep-seated knowings are what gets us up in the morning and keeps us going. Often there are roadblocks holding us back – like fear, limiting beliefs and perspective hinged on past happenings. Working on these fears and negative thoughts enables us to overcome and then progress positively. From the learning, we get crystal clear vision on what we want, then comes knowing how to BE, then action ignites.

As mentioned, in most cases, we’ve known intuitively what we’ve wanted however, done nothing towards the goal. Goals differ from individual to individual. A goal is a goal and it has the same parts of achievement to it. For some it will be career associated, a promotion or even exit.

It might be a relationship? Maybe a summer-ready body or one to run a marathon. None of these goals will happen unless we make a decision. We must believe we are worthy of our dreams and goals, that they are absolutely deserved.

We hear sports stories where the difference between the winner and second place was merely inches or seconds apart. The winner won by focus and the loser lost by split-second indecision. We also have to be decisive – we have to actively make the decision, remove what derails or distracts us, and only keep what helps us in achieving our goals. These distractions could be people, habits not serving us, or strategies that need to change.

We must stay focused and follow through – having someone like a coach or mentor keeping us accountable is imperative to success. A solid decision and commitment are keys to success. Then it’s up to the universe, environment, people around us and circumstances; all controlled by a high energy. Trusting the process and journey is magical.

Take comfort from deeply feeling our goals and trusting the journey once we’ve peeled away the unnecessary. Next, accept, have gratitude and plan. With the plan, take focused action steps toward the goal. Yes, the road might be rocky and we may need to let go of stuff and possibly some people. Lastly, 100 per cent focus is essential for striving towards what we really, really want. It’s one decision and it will change our life – this one decision will unlock the path to fulfilment in our life.

Tips on goal setting and decision-making

  • Forward planning. Be crystal clear on what we want and the ‘how’ will come.
  • Go within. Have introspective quiet time and allow any messages to come through. We will often be surprised by what comes up.
  • Take small tangible action steps, keep focused and on task. Notice when we fall off the rails, recheck the goal, tweak if need be, and keep moving.
  • Every day, ‘Just do it’ as Nike would say!
Debbie Hogg

Debbie Hogg  

Debbie Hogg is one of Australia’s leading coaches PCC/APC, is an award winning Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, Speaker, Women’s Retreat Master, Writer, Podcaster, Adventurous Hiker and is The Self-Worth Coach. Debbie is passionate in helping women manage their ‘Inner & Outer’ balance. She is co-creator of Life Skills Programs, assisting parents teach children confidence and resilience. Debbie knows that when we give ourselves permission to fully show up in our life amazing serendipities occur! She is mum to two amazing teenager daughters // www.debbiehogg.com