Wanting to achieve something and then getting stuck in procrastination is a common cause of staying the same. As we sit and reflect on the past 6 months of the year which seems to be disappearing very quickly, how do we feel about what we have achieved so far? Have we already got all we planned to have by now, or are we behind the eight ball a little? Did we plan too big? Did we not plan enough? Were we clear in what we wanted? When we allow procrastination to come and play with us it will always keep us stuck.
“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done with hope and confidence.”
– Helen Keller
William James, one of the founders of modern psychology once said, “Procrastination is attitude’s natural assassin, there is nothing so fatiguing as an uncompleted task.” These uncompleted tasks keep us stuck, they encourage us to beat ourselves up, which we as humans like to do a lot. However it does not serve us at all. Some people thrive on procrastination and being stuck, this is where the victim role will come in. Some of us will blame others/situations or circumstances for our inability to move on with the task. Or, we will make excuses, and can often be in denial about there being an issue. We can sometimes be unconsciously playing below the line in the victim mentality and we don’t even know we are doing it. This will be our unconscious patterning playing out. We will have had it for a long time and we sit once again on repeat, like an old fashioned stuck record.
It’s important to know what we want and it’s a very difficult question for many people. Some even say it’s the hardest question in the world and one they cannot answer. However, once we know what we want, we can make the plan to get it. When we draw up the plan, we can list all the benefits achieving the task/s will bring to us. Understanding the benefits will kick procrastination to touch. When we fully immerse ourselves in the benefits and what it will give us – it’s like a magnetic pull and will propel and drive us forwards. The benefits are what rock our world, they are the magic key to our success.
Tips for kicking procrastination:
- Make a list of what is important to us and what we want in relation to these,
- List all the benefits having ‘it’ would give to us – now sit with them and really feel what it would be like to achieve it/them,
- Prioritise which we would like to achieve first, this can be based on finances available, the most difficult, easiest, cheapest, most fun, most challenging – we could start small and get bigger,
- Watch the quick ‘Eat That Frog’ video 1.29minutes,
- Get support from friends, family, mentors or a Life Coach,
- Take an Inspirational Living Retreat in the rainforest and contemplate where life is going from today – get support from other amazing ladies over the weekend,
- Read personal development books to support the vision we desire,
- Make a vision board with all we would like to have or create for our life – vision the benefits,
- Share with family what it is we want to create in our life, also let them know how they fit into the picture, they will jump on board and keep us accountable,
- Know with each mistake, it was meant to teach us something, learning the lesson will enable us to go forward,
- Choose to be optimistic about life,
- Stop the repeat cycle, “If we always do what we have always done, we will always get what we have always got”, practice interrupting our patterns,
- Seek out Meet-up groups in our area for personal development growth and connections, remembering ‘Like attracts Like’.
Knowing we have the ability to change anything we want to change is awesome personal power – now have fun with it!
“I am too positive to be doubtful, too optimistic to be fearful and too determined to be defeated.”