You must either modify your dreams or magnify your skills – Jim Rohn


Busy seems to be the acceptable norm, “how are you?”, we say, “Oh busy” generally comes the reply. We seem to be so busy that we don’t do the things we used to find enjoyable and relaxing. We struggle to find the time to do the things that re-energise and relax us. The day whizzes by with family and work commitments and then we fall exhausted into a heap in bed. We awake with the rise of a new day and rush to do some exercise or chores or even hit the snooze button for some much needed sleep.


We thought technology and all these time saving devices would save us time however they have had the opposite effect. We find ourselves saying yes, lets do this, or slotting something into that blank space in our calendar. We are caught between being the taxi driver and the administrator of our kids commitments and all of these we have encouraged them to participate in. Wow, are we exhausted!


We think about giving up work full-time and going part time however there are bills to be paid and of course we have that life-style we are used to, we like what we have and at this point in time are not prepared to give anything up. The extra curricular programs have to be paid for, there is the private tutoring for some of us just to give our kids the extra edge and then the rates and water come in. Ahhhhhh, we say, and back on the merry-go-round we go. Nothing changes. Our busy-ness continues and we know the effect it’s having however we gloss over that and go, “oh no not me, I’m okay, I can cope”. Or, we say to ourselves, “it’s just got to be done, there is no other way”and nothing changes. The more we operate at this pace, the more it takes a toll on our bodies. The more our body gets a bashing the more our organs start to say, ‘hang on a second’and they start to shut down, play some games or even start to rebel.


The more we struggle with what to do, the more we wish we weren’t here. We look for someone to help us get out of this mess and we don’t know where to turn. We start to lean on things like drugs or alcohol we start to let our exercise go and we can start to become very unhappy at how our lot has turned out.


It’s in this moment that it’s so important to ask ourselves, “What is it that we want for our life?”. This is often a very difficult question to ask, however it’s a great question to ask ourselves because it can be an awakening question and one that can change our life.


Can we put some new processes in place to make things different, yes we can. If we are feeling on the frazzled side and we continue to do what we have always done expecting a different outcome then we are going to be sadly disappointed.


Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by Change! – Jim Rohn


Let’s take a look at some different options to put into place.

  • Take the morning or afternoon off, whether working from home or not,
  • Decide to do some regular enjoyable exercise, you know exercise we like and feel good from,
  • Talk to someone, a friend, family member, partner or coach – talking is very powerful,
  • Do some brainstorming on what it is that ‘we truly want’,
  • Start getting clear defined boundaries in place that support us to have some ‘ME’ time,
  • Go for a coffee with a good friend,
  • Take the kids to the beach and feel the wind blow the cobwebs away,
  • Throw a street party or do something in the street with all the kids,
  • Get a check up from the doctor or naturopath and make a health plan moving forward,
  • Find support and ideas in podcasts there are thousands around on many subjects,
  • Listen to TED talks they are varied and fascinating, will also give ideas and options,
  • Take on a 12 week fitness challenge and get moving,
  • Learn to dance with a partner or without,
  • Go to a meet up group – they are varied and have different topics,
  • Take our self to a movie,
  • Spend sometime ‘BEING Present’and create a new awareness,
  • Walk on the beach or in the bush,
  • Do something that we have always wanted to do, just do it!
  • Set new boundaries around ‘technology and screen time’
  • Play some board games and do it regularly, kids love the time with us,
  • Do a family walk now that the weather and light is getting better,
  • Have a look at what’s on for the coming months and plan some family time,
  • Share making meals with kids, they love the connection and they learn so much,
  • Take up fishing, riding, surfing, water skiing, reading, RAW food, growing veggies or anything of interest!


If we want something different we must do something we have never done before.


If you dont design your own life plan, chances are youll fall into someone elses plan.

And guess why they have planned for you? Not much.”  – Jim Rohn


Debbie Hogg

Debbie Hogg  

Debbie Hogg is one of Australia’s leading coaches PCC/APC, is an award winning Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, Speaker, Women’s Retreat Master, Writer, Podcaster, Adventurous Hiker and is The Self-Worth Coach. Debbie is passionate in helping women manage their ‘Inner & Outer’ balance. She is co-creator of Life Skills Programs, assisting parents teach children confidence and resilience. Debbie knows that when we give ourselves permission to fully show up in our life amazing serendipities occur! She is mum to two amazing teenager daughters // www.debbiehogg.com