As the busyness of Christmas and the holiday break creeps up some of us yearn for a little time out. Yes, a moment to have a break, a quick cuppa, a reflection, a breather or we could stretch it out to a weekend away, a sabbatical or even a retreat. It’s all about taking the time for us as we all need solitude in our life exactly as we need oxygen.


How you treat yourself is how you are inviting the world to treat you.


Even when our lives are smooth and relatively easy, we can still often struggle with unwanted emotions like guilt, jealousy, fear, anger and ego. We could also be feeling anxious with what is happening in our life or be dealing with frustrations and other unwanted emotions. Holding onto any of these feelings keeps us trapped and our body retaliates often by operating from a place of dis-ease.


Taking time out for ‘self’ is highlighted now being the end of the year, we seem to be talking the same language with, where has the year gone?, I have been so busy and wouldn’t it be great to take time out. I never seem to have time for me. This highlights the importance of giving ourselves permission to rest up a little and gather our thoughts and energy, not just now but on a regular basis. Of course this seems like common sense, however common sense isn’t necessarily very common.


There is a new term ‘Rushing Women’s Syndrome’ which could simply be called ‘Rushing Syndrome’ because men are just as busy as ladies. We fill our days and weeks up with stressing, striving, shopping, parenting, driving, supervising, supporting, partying, networking and whatever else needs to be squeezed in. It’s not simply aimed at parents either, take out children and it’s replaced by other things. In choosing to do this behaviour we are giving ourself permission to hold back on pushing the pause button for that ‘still moment’.


When we ignore the signs or forget to stop it affects us mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. We may even find we don’t feel like being social. Eating habits may change and this impacts our physical being rippling to our inner balance. It could impact on our exercise leading to sluggish recovery and at times we just might catch ourselves wondering what we are doing. And on and on the merry-go-round goes.


There are many different ‘time outs’ that can be taken to assist us. Creating the awareness for ourself is the first step. Next, looking at ideas and options then comes weighing up the benefits and most importantly what we really would like. It’s imperative that we acknowledge that “we are the most important person in our life”.


We have all at some time or another considered breaking away for a short time however something stops us from actually doing it and some of these could be;


  • Too much on our plate,
  • Too many others to be responsible for,
  • I’m not important enough,
  • Not enough money,
  • Don’t know what to do,
  • Wouldn’t know where to go,
  • Don’t want to go alone,
  • What would our partner think if I went away?
  • Too selfish of me to think about doing anything like going away for myself,
  • Fearful of what others would think or say,
  • Have other things to spend the money on,
  • Who would look after the children, animals or plants?
  • It’s the wrong time of the year.


All of the above of course are justifiable in our world and if this is the way that we choose to think then we will continue to always do what we have always done, giving us what we have always got. This is great, if it is indeed what we truly want.


As we contemplate the possibility of taking a well-earned break it’s a good idea to get in touch with some of the possible benefits.


  • Create clarity in where we are and what we truly want,
  • Create balance within our life,
  • Enable us to regroup and focus,
  • Give us time to take some deep breaths and count to 10 creating calm and a sense of peace,
  • Be nourished by what we gift ourself, time for sitting with a cuppa, have a treat, read a book, take an organised retreat, find a beach apartment and spend sometime simply ‘being,
  • Express to those around us that I’m taking some ‘self-loving time (and go out for a walk or jog),
  • Brings balance, joy, appreciation, self-love and much more,
  • We model to our children and partner that ‘self’ is important to look after,
  • We are happier, calmer and more aware,
  • We understand our needs better,
  • We find the voice to request what we want,
  • Our health is improved,
  • We can unpack any baggage that we are carrying around because we can look at this type of stuff when we step out of it,


Making the time to take time out has amazing benefits for the mind, body and soul, it also allows personal reflection and connection to ‘self’. Discover how to take a self-loving break by making time for Retreat and Solitude, listen into this great podcast.


Often it’s a struggle to work things out alone and as we look at closing off the end of the year and inviting next year to come on in, it’s worthwhile contemplating what worked and what didn’t work. If we want to have something different and put some changes in place then working with a qualified professional coach is recommended. Taking more walks on the beach or in the bush as connecting with mother nature will give us the self-nurturing that is required for our soul and overall health and wellbeing.  Check out retreats in the area, a 3 day retreat has been proven to recharge and boost confidence – retreats allow us the space to rethink and re-energise’.


When things get challenging visit Cheryl Richardson’s website and click on A Touch of Grace ask a question and see what happens, the journey is what life is all about.


I wish you a very Merry Christmas and may all your dreams for 2016 come true.


“I have come to believe that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.

Audre Lorde


Debbie Hogg

Debbie Hogg  

Debbie Hogg is one of Australia’s leading coaches PCC/APC, is an award winning Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, Speaker, Women’s Retreat Master, Writer, Podcaster, Adventurous Hiker and is The Self-Worth Coach. Debbie is passionate in helping women manage their ‘Inner & Outer’ balance. She is co-creator of Life Skills Programs, assisting parents teach children confidence and resilience. Debbie knows that when we give ourselves permission to fully show up in our life amazing serendipities occur! She is mum to two amazing teenager daughters // www.debbiehogg.com