The best gift that we can give anyone is the gift of being present, it’s precious. When we spend one hour of time being fully present it impacts far more than an interrupted 3 or 4 hours with our family, friends or colleagues. The connectedness and focus felt with an uninterrupted one hour is remembered and felt far longer.


Spend time with those you love. One of these days you will say either, I wish I did or Im glad I did.

– Zig Ziglar


We can sometimes be fooled into a false sense the giving of our time when we are so preoccupied, we feel that we are there and doing the right thing however are we really? How present are we being? How in the moment are we being? If we are spending hours with our family whilst checking emails, making a few phone calls, clearing appointments or planning for next week, we are not fully showing up. This is unfair and disrespectful and models a type of behaviour to those around us as being acceptable and it can start to become the norm.


There may have been times when we experienced everyone in the household being on some form of device and nobody is communicating. The question to ask around this behaviour is, where has it been learnt? Our children model exactly what they see. Monkey see, Monkey do.


Awareness of our own behaviour will support us in making changes regarding the type of connection we wish to have with our family, friends and work colleagues. When we are fully present, giving our focus and energy, it deepens the bonds of love and connection between us, creating the vibrant relationships we all wish for. “Quality time with loved ones will improve your health too”, according to expert Dr. Dean Ornish. Improved relationships and improved health are all great for creating a better life balance.


The appreciation and respect gained from having a fully present connection is priceless. A simple change can be practicing the art of listening and only asking questions. With being in the moment and fully showing up allows abundance of good emotions, the feeling of being accepted, feeling heard, cared about, needed, appreciated and much more. Deciding to make a change is the first step, next will be creating strategies and focusing on the benefits. Connect with loved ones and family, diarise and prioritise and see the difference. Our children will appreciate more time with mum and dad and of course adults get a buzz out of spending quality time as well.


Tips for possibilities:

  • Spend the day or weekend with the family (spending time is our children’s highest desire),
  • Doing fun holiday activities in the Easter break or school holidays,
  • Booking a holiday – having something to look forward to is healthy,
  • Do lunch dates, or breaks – get out of the office,
  • Walk on the beach / bush – nature helps support our recharging,
  • Have dinner parties, picnics, BBQ’s, catchups. Plan it in the diary.


Take control and make the changes we wish to make. Reconnect and make it happen.


“In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take

– unknown


Debbie Hogg

Debbie Hogg  

Debbie Hogg is one of Australia’s leading coaches PCC/APC, is an award winning Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, Speaker, Women’s Retreat Master, Writer, Podcaster, Adventurous Hiker and is The Self-Worth Coach. Debbie is passionate in helping women manage their ‘Inner & Outer’ balance. She is co-creator of Life Skills Programs, assisting parents teach children confidence and resilience. Debbie knows that when we give ourselves permission to fully show up in our life amazing serendipities occur! She is mum to two amazing teenager daughters // www.debbiehogg.com