There is one guarantee in life and this is change, yes things will always be changing. Dealing with change can be enormously challenging. Because change is a learning process, accepting process, deal with it or simply roll with it process, it is something we need to do. Looking at it constructively is essential for good health and wellbeing. When the result to change is ignored it causes tension and upset, externally and internally. It can cause grief, disbelief and often surprise. When we refuse to or procrastinate on putting processes in place to make a more positive change to our circumstances it will create the same effect, tension, tightness, upset and often anger.
I just woke up one day and decided I didn’t want to feel like this anymore so I changed. – Unknown
When we have to deal with change we can choose to do it with gritted teeth or with ease. Whichever way we choose to deal with it, it is a conscious choice and it belongs to us. As David Bowie sings in his song ‘Changes’ – turn and face the strain. When we face it, we have a grounded beginning place to work from. Often this is where the challenge lies and the greatest pain will be. Working on it alone can stop us from moving forward, we can get in our own way. Choosing to work with a friend/partner in sharing the issue can be advantageous. If this doesn’t work or the issue is too close, working with a coach will fully assist the change.
Change is about owning up and taking it on. It’s about looking at the situation and asking what is making this happen. Change is about being honest in our life. There are many different things which could be causing any of us distress or giving us the feeling of discomfort. We could be tired of doing what we have always been doing; this might be in a relationship or a job. It could be something like the car, washing machine, pool filter or other device working below capacity and us tolerating it. It might be as simple as always walking the same route for exercise and we are no longer stimulated which then impacts our health. It might be having second thoughts about starting a business because things aren’t happening fast enough or going according to the plan. It could be moving house, leaving a comfortable secure life behind. It might be dealing with problems and issues the same way all the time and getting the same result, this can be tiresome and draining. Change is about calling it as it is. Stepping up and doing something productive. Dr Wayne Dyer says, “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.”
If we truly want something different, we will look for ways to make it happen.
Tips to support making positive change…
- Change of mindset is necessary. Albert Einstein said “You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.”
- Have a support person or team. We can often feel tired or have low energy levels and this will encourage us to go with old habits. Having a neutral support person to keep us accountable and on track will support this process – working with a coach will give us this.
- Vision Board – it’s a reminder for what we want to have in our life and how we want to make our life work for us. Our vision shows us the change we want to be.
- Affirmations or positive statements work well as reminders. We need to have tools and techniques to support any change. These will keep us on track and help create those new habits.
Know, real and lasting change is a journey and our starting point is right now. We are exactly where we are meant to be.
Resources // David Bowie’s song Changes.