I got a great piece of advice from an old friend today: Schedule one-on-one days with your children. Make time for just you and them to explore, create, experience and enjoy “things” (it doesn’t matter what that means).
It could mean you take in a movie, go on the Gondola through the Broadwater or try a fun new restaurant. You could put a tent up in the backyard and pretend you’re on a desert island or explore places you loved as a child like Timezone or Ripleys Believe it or Not. You could draw. You could go to the library and check out the new books. You could go on a bush walk (even if it’s just through the Botanical Gardens) or simply listen to them tell you stories about adventures in the playground. Whatever it is, stop and just be with your kids, one on one, and build memories.
This old friend of mine has four kids and for the decade I’ve known him, he also takes time with each child to spend quality time together. I think that makes him an amazing dad, one who shows each child that they are important and the time they spend together is golden. Jealously doesn’t exist, because they all know they have some special time coming up with dad.
When the bustle of work stops and finally the weekend is here, all I want to do is share time and cuddles with my boys – the two little ones and the big one too. It’s what drives me through the week and keeps me awake in meetings.
We have two divine children, Eli is nine months old and Jaxon is five. Eli is growing teeth and learning how to use his legs. Jaxon is in Prep and is a sponge, hungry for information. Sometimes I find myself trying to spread myself too thin between the two boys, or I sacrifice one for the other. When time is so precious, it’s a difficult juggle to be there for both. I find myself getting frustrated when Jaxon wants me to build a Minecraft helmet while Eli needs some food. Or when Eli needs a nappy change but Jaxon and I are in the middle of an awesome book. It’s tough to push Jaxon on a swing and hold Eli up at the same time. So I’m going to try the one-on-one days. Head out with just one boy for the morning and build some memories together. Hold their hands while I still can and listen to their theories on life, whilst they will still want to tell me. See the place I call home through their eyes and enjoy the simple things together.
THE BIG Q… This month, we ask The Hub experts what’s your fave family holiday destination and why?
We actually haven’t gone on a family holiday as a posse of four just yet, but during our most recent summer holidays I have to say our favourite destination was our pool! Complete with inflatable floating bar!!