From telegrams to texts, invitations have changed a lot over the years. What is your preferred mode of invitation? We’ve narrowed down the pros and cons of the four most popular ones to help you decide.

Printed snail mail

Pros: Printed invitations are a keepsake for you and your guests, and they’re a fun way to flex your creative muscle if you choose to design them yourself (websites like Snapfish, Canva and Vistaprint are some of our favourites). They’re also a great way for you to reach people who may not be on Facebook or even a computer (sorry, Grandma) and make people more likely to RSVP as the event seems more important since you’ve gone to the trouble to physically make each invitation.

Cons: They’re the most expensive of the four options, but by ‘most expensive’ we really just mean ‘not free’. They’re also not environmentally friendly – though we’d like to think they won’t end up in landfill – and run the risk of getting lost in the post.

Email PDF

Pros: It may sound kind of dorky, but emailing a beautifully-designed invitation to your guests is the next best alternative to printed snail mail. You still get to be creative and, in the event that an email bounces, you can just send it again. People are also more willing to give out their email addresses than their postal address, so rounding up your guests’ contact details isn’t as much of a hassle.

Cons: Your email may not send or could wind up in a junk mail folder. Also, unless your guest prints out the invite themselves (wasting paper in the process) it’s unlikely that it will stay front of mind enough to ensure an RSVP. But, even in that case, it’s easy enough to send a follow up email to the non-repliers when you need to confirm numbers.

Facebook group/event

Pros: This is certainly the most popular option for the younger generation – most 21sts these days are organised on Facebook. It’s a great way to see who’s seen your invitation (which makes people more likely to respond) and you can easily change the details without too much confusion. And, when the party is over, people can post their happy snaps to the event for all to see (which may be more of a con depending on how wild you get…)

Cons: Swinging people an event notification on Facebook doesn’t exactly scream ‘intimate gathering’, so if you want your party invites to have a personal touch, this isn’t the way to go. Your guests can also see who else is invited, which in some cases could dictate who ends up coming and who doesn’t.


Pros: Invitations by text seem a bit impersonal, but they’re actually a great way to reach out to the select few people you want at your event and hash out any necessary details – particularly if it’s a kids’ party. You can (usually) get a direct response within an hour or two and, if you want to make it fancy, you can always create an invitation and just send it as a photo via text rather than email. Best of both worlds.

Cons: If it’s a special event you’re organising, a text invite will be too casual.



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