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Parenting, and especially motherhood, can be one of the most rewarding and tough gigs all in one. It seems that once you are on top of a particular stage in your child’s life, they grow up and develop and the learning starts all over again. And all the way through, whether you’re a stay at home mum, a working mum, a celebrity mum, a single mum, a mother of one or a mother of 10, there’s always times of second guessing and ‘mummy guilt’. We talk to a number of savvy local women about how they tackle motherhood and their tips on how you can too.

 


Kath Rose // 
Director, Kath Rose & Associates. Mum to Matilda (15) and Jack (12).

Kath Rose lives and breathes PR and communications. Her job will have her hosting media at night-time events in downtown Brisbane and then in regional Queensland on the weekend. It’s more-than-a-fulltime job that she combines with her more-than-a-fulltime gig as mum to teens. We asked the communications guru how she communicates with her kids and what those personality-filled cherubs have taught her… “I’ve learnt I’ll never ever get a good night’s sleep, I’ll never fit into my True Religion jeans I wore pre-babies, that my makeup and wallet will always be left open and empty and that the bathroom will always look like the aftermath of a dance party,” Kath laughs. “I’ve learnt eye rolls can be very very scary. I’ve learnt that ‘olden-time music’ now refers to Rick Astley and The Culture Club. I’ve learnt that full conversations can now be had in abbreviations. But I’ve also learnt that a bear hug will never go out of fashion, that manners maketh the kid (especially now) and that there’s nothing I would rather do in the world than be a mum to my two kids and three dogs.” Eloquent, as always, KR.

 

What is one of the biggest lessons you’ve learned as a mum?

Humility and love – 100 per cent. I’ve learnt that every breath I take and every move I make (thank you Sting), is for them. Motherhood is the best and longest lesson in humility.

 

Do you think your mum had it easier as a mother in her generation?

I think this generation, particularly of working mums, are really breaking entirely new ground – there is no downtime at all. Work is 24/7, motherhood is 24/7 and being a wife and a female and a human is all 24/7. I know my parents have no idea what I do or how I feel or operate – they live worlds away and really don’t fathom my reality – and I know this is the same for so many mums in similar situations. It’s why many of us live such fast lives and on the outside seem like Cirque du Soleil performers – always landing perfectly and with a smile. It’s not like that behind the scenes though. As my kids say “the struggle is real”… I’m probably talking way outside the question here but it’s an area that’s never really addressed – we all feel like we need to pay homage to our mothers, but perhaps it’s time our mothers look at their kids and pay tribute to them?

 

In three words, how would you describe yourself as a pregnant woman?

Bottom-heavy, busy and completely ill-prepared.

 

How do you look after yourself while also looking after your kids/family?

Badly. And I’m learning that I actually do have to make time for me (that doesn’t include watching World’s Great Pranks with my son).

 

What kiddie matters are you dealing with in your family currently?

Social media access – it’s a mine field. And what we all need to understand is that it is here to stay. It’s the new playground, it’s the new Corner Store, the new mall. It’s where the kids congregate. So we need to work out how to police and manage it. Just like it’s a different world for parenting now, it’s a different world being 12 and 15 – and we need to keep up. ‘Currency of Understanding’ is possibly the biggest issue we face as modern parents.

 

If you could go back in time, what one thing would you tell the new- mum version of yourself?

Be kinder to yourself. It’s OK to make mistakes, you will never be perfect and that kids are resilient.

 

Belinda Glindemann

Belinda Glindemann  

Belinda knew she was destined for a career in communications and publishing from the age of 11 when her Year 6 teacher introduced her to poster projects and glitter pens. She completed her journalism cadetship in the Whitsundays and went on to hold various newspaper and magazine editor roles across Brisbane in a media career spanning more than a decade. When Belinda's not writing for haven, she runs her own PR agency, kid-wrangles two young daughters and drinks way too much sweet tea.