Parenting, and especially motherhood, can be one of the most rewarding and tough gigs all in one. It seems that once you are on top of a particular stage in your child’s life, they grow up and develop and the learning starts all over again. And all the way through, whether you’re a stay at home mum, a working mum, a celebrity mum, a single mum, a mother of one or a mother of 10, there’s always times of second guessing and ‘mummy guilt’. We talk to a number of savvy local women about how they tackle motherhood and their tips on how you can too.
Kelly Burstow // Be a Fun Mum Blogger. Mum to Adelaide (14), Mackenzie (12), Jamie (10) and Harrison (8).
Kelly Burstow knows a thing or two about mothering. Not only is she pretty successfully raising four well-rounded children, she also spends her days helping women across the nation engage with their kids and families through her blog, ‘Be a Fun Mum’. With more than 222,000 followers on Facebook, she’s obviously doing the right thing. Although Kelly lost her own mum when Kelly was new on the parenting scene, her mum taught
her the significance of small moments and the importance of patience. “She taught me about the joy of investing in others, while still retaining a strong sense of self,” Kelly says.
How would you describe yourself pregnant?
Chili-lover. Expectant. Strong.
Do you think your mum had it easier in her generation?
Past generations of mothers didn’t have the same choice options that I have. However, I do think there is a lot of outward pressure on mothers in this generation and so much noise about parenting to wade through.
How do you look after yourself while also looking after your kids/family?
I keep doing the things I love to do. Depending on the stages of motherhood I’m in, I’ve had to be creative about finding different ways of doing them, that’s all! Eg. I love creative projects, but when I had four children under six, I really was quite limited in what I could do. That is one of the reasons why I started a blog; it gave me a creative outlet without taking me away from my young kids.
What kiddie matters are you dealing with in your family currently?
Compared to the challenges when my children were younger, I currently find there’s more emotional needs rather than physical; more logistical intricacies rather than logistical restrictions; more external worries and less physical exhaustion.
If you could go back in time, what would you tell the new-mum version of yourself?
To embrace each parenting stage, with all its joys and challenges, and not wish it away by looking ahead at the ‘green grass’ of the next stage.
How would you like your kids to describe you?
My teen was walking past and I asked her! She said, “Really lovely, and she understands people.” Humbled.