Parenting, and especially motherhood, can be one of the most rewarding and tough gigs all in one. It seems that once you are on top of a particular stage in your child’s life, they grow up and develop and the learning starts all over again. And all the way through, whether you’re a stay at home mum, a working mum, a celebrity mum, a single mum, a mother of one or a mother of 10, there’s always times of second guessing and ‘mummy guilt’. We talk to a number of savvy local women about how they tackle motherhood and their tips on how you can too.
Margaux Parker // Wife of Brisbane Broncos captain Corey Parker. Mum to Memphis (6), Wylei (5), Jagger (2) and River (3 months).
With a big family and a very busy husband of Brisbane sporting royality, Margaux Parker has her hands full most days. But it’s especially the case right now after baby daughter River blessed the Parkers with her presence at the end of January. Margaux describes her pregnant-self as “emotional and up beat” and jokes when she tells others contemplating a big family to “enjoy them while they are little” but just “don’t have more than two!”.
Do you think your mum had it easier as a mother in her generation?
We are so much more aware these days with information at our fingertips. Social media makes being a mum hard with the perception of perfection. Work and finance pressures make it tougher with most households needing two incomes so lots of women have to go back to work and some women choose to. Either way, the choice comes with added pressures in the household and on the family unit.
What is one of the biggest lessons you’ve learned as a mum?
Children are so impressionable and vulnerable. They are looking to me to guide them constantly so I’m always trying to model positive language and behaviour (no swearing or mummy meltdowns) – “trying” being the operative word!
How do you look after yourself while also looking after your kids/family?
I always make time to keep on top of the aesthetics eg. hair, nails, monthly facials. I will start a fitness routine in the next few weeks after having River (she’s the last one, I’ve been informed by the husband!). It’s time to start focusing on my inner self.
What kiddie matters are you dealing with in your family currently?
Listening (lack of), emotional lows (meltdowns), staying focused and on task (not doing as asked).
How would you like your kids to describe you?
Firm, yet gentle. Tough, but loving. Lots of fun.
If you could go back in time, what one thing would you tell the new-mum version of yourself?
It’s OK to feel overwhelmed and vulnerable. Trust yourself and don’t be afraid to ask for help.