Parenting, and especially motherhood, can be one of the most rewarding and tough gigs all in one. It seems that once you are on top of a particular stage in your child’s life, they grow up and develop and the learning starts all over again. And all the way through, whether you’re a stay at home mum, a working mum, a celebrity mum, a single mum, a mother of one or a mother of 10, there’s always times of second guessing and ‘mummy guilt’. We talk to a number of savvy local women about how they tackle motherhood and their tips on how you can too.
Tiffani Wood // Singer/Songwriter and Owner/Director of Tiffani Wood Singing School. Mum to Lillian (9), Harley (2), Beau (17 months) and Ryder (1 month).
It’s interesting to consider how our mothers enjoyed motherhood in their era compared to how modern-day mamas enjoy the role. With four kids, including a brand new bundle of joy born just last month, Tiffani Wood believes neither generation had it easier or harder. “As time has gone by, I think some things have gotten easier for us (eg. better access to help if needed and health care for our kids) but it’s also harder in others (eg. the pressure to do it all, such as be a home mum and work mum),” she says. “Both generations had/have the responsibility to raise their kids the best they know how by putting food on the table, giving them a loving home and clothing with a good education. When you look at it that way, there’s probably not much difference as both generations try to do exactly that.”
How would you describe yourself as a pregnant woman?
Hormonal, chocoholic, clean-freak.
What is one of the biggest lessons you’ve learned as a mum?
I’ve learnt that when people ask “Can I get you anything?” or “Do you need help?” that it’s OK to say “YES, I DO!”. Use your support system whether it be daycare, your partner, friends, family or the lady down the street.
How do you look after yourself while also looking after your kids/family?
I take the pamper or timeout route eg. facials, getting my hair done, massage, eating chocolate, having a cuppa, reading a home styling mag quietly – anything that gives me some me time as I’m usually constantly cleaning and picking up after everyone plus trying to juggle work, my partner and family-life balance. Doing these things, for me, makes me feel special as a woman, not just as a mum. A happy mum = happy kids and partner = happy house.
What kiddie matters are you dealing with in your family currently?
Nappies! We have three in them and it’s costing us a small fortune so toilet training is on the agenda again for our 2 year old. Also the use of technology for our 9, 2 and 1 year old and asking how much is too much? Also how to best give one-on-one time and attention to each of the kids with a new bub in the house.
How would you like your kids to describe you?
I think any mum would want their kids to think they’re the best mum ever. Lillian, 9, constantly writes that to me in letters and drawings. She also told me, “All these years you have been a very, very kind, helpful, loving, caring and nice mum in the whole wide world.” I couldn’t ask for more than that!